School Day Mornings Suck

One of the worst jobs about being a Mom is having to get the kids up every morning. I hate it. It sucks. I hate waking anyone up because I hate to be woken up. But it's my job to go in there and wake up two peacefully sleeping children. It takes anywhere from 15 minutes to 30 minutes. I try and try to wake them up nicely. But most mornings they won't get on up and so I end up yelling and threatening to take previleges away. So, then there is an order for the morning to go smoothly: Daughter gets up, goes to bathroom downstairs, gets dressed, brushes hair, comes upstairs for breakfast. Son gets up, comes upstairs, uses bathroom, gets dressed, combs hair, comes to table for breakfast. No matter how many times I tell them the order, most mornings they do something out of order and then it takes longer. This morning daughter came wondering upstairs and sat on the couch before doing any of the other things she should do prior to coming upstairs. Then when I tell her to go back downstairs she gets all upset. This sets the mood for the morning. Yeah. Son came up and did everything correctly this morning. But now he is all ready to walk out the door and we are waiting on sister. We need to leave right now. But she is downstairs, slowly brushing her teeth. Lord help me, I'm going down there.

In between a rock & a hard place

Okay here is what happened...I called my older sister and told her I would like to come to see her. She lives 12 hours away. She was excited about us coming. So far, so good. Then my mother came to visit and I told her about us going to my sister's house. She said, in a whining voice, "I want to go too." I said, "you want to go?" After that, I'm not sure what happened but somehow, someway, my mother got the idea that I had invited her to come with us. This is not good. This is a woman who drives us crazy. She picks fights. She says just about anything she wants to us because she "has the right" because we are her daughters. After years of her visits ending horribly I finally put a limit on her. I told her she can not stay for longer than 3 days. She usually does good for that long but after that she starts the picking. We end up getting into a big fight and I hate it. I wish we had a better relationship but I know after 40-something years of having her as my mother...it is the way she is and that is that. Growing up she picked fights with my sister, my Dad and I. Over the years I have just had to accept that she is just like that. I can not change her, I can only change the way I react to her. So how the hell am I supposed to get out of her horning in on my visit to my sister's house????

My mother also does not get along at all with my brother-in-law. She has offended him too many times and he just refuses to put up with her anymore. He has told my sister that if my mom does come for a visit and if she says or does anything to offend him, piss him off or anything else then she will no longer be welcome to come back for a visit...ever. I have no doubt that he would enforce this.

My sister called me this week and said we have to get a handle on the situation. She said she is willing to call our mom together and tell her. I have talked with mom a couple of times since then and just could not get the words out of my mouth. Unlike my mom, I don't like to hurt people. I know this is going to hurt her and make her mad. How do you tell someone that they are not welcome to come with you on your vacation???

Beside the fact that her personality is abrasive she is also somewhat crippled. She should not be sitting in a car for the amount of time it takes to get to my sister's. I'm sure her doctor would say she shouldn't do that. He has told her that when she travels she needs to stop and walk around at least every hour. We can not do that, it would double the amount of time it takes to get there.

Also, my husband and I want to stop half way there with the kids at a big water park. My mom can not enjoy a water park. She can't walk very much. She can't climb, etc.

So, how am I going to tell her? I keep going over and over it in my mind. I just don't know.

Monday Night T-ball

My son had a t-ball game tonight. I enjoyed watching him play. They are all so cute out there. Sometimes they forget to run or run in the wrong direction!!

I have to get my hubby's 40th b-day party planned. It is in 3 weeks and I haven't bought one thing for it. I am still somewhat clueless about what to do. I mean do I just do the "40" theme or go with something else? Do I make the cake or get it made. He said he wants to have it here. I would much rather have it somewhere else so I don't have so much work and clean up. Funny how for my 40th he had it at one of my favorite local restaurants but for his he won't let me get away with that. Maybe I should just do it anyway. Nah. I'll do it the he wants it done. Remember the golden rule: do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.

Busy Weekend

This has been a busy weekend. Friday my son's Kindergarten class invited the Moms for lunch. It was sweet how he kept reminding me all week to make sure I come on Friday for lunch. He was so happy to have me there with him. He showed me all sorts of stuff in his classroom and they sang a song for each month of the year....too cute. Then Friday night my daughter and I went on an overnight camping trip with her girl scout troop. We had neither one camped before. I mean, sure, I went on camping trips... 20-something years ago with the youth group from church. Needless to say, we were up all night scared to death. My daughter was afraid a fox would come into her tent and eat her. I just knew if I fell asleep I would wake up and find a rabid raccoon on my chest. I think I got a total of 2 hours sleep. then we trudged around the camp all day with the girls performing skills like tying knots, building fires, etc. We were so tired last night when we got home. I showered and then she and I went out to eat. I ended up going to bed at 9:30 p.m. That is way early for me. Then today was Mother's day with breakfast in bed, homemade cards and lots of sugar. I am a very fortunate Mom.

What to do, what to do???

I am feeling like I have so much to do I don't know where to begin. There is a pile of paperwork I need to get done for my daughter to go to camp; paper work for me to turn in at my school for financial aid; my house needs cleaning; laundry needs to be done; my car needs to be washed and vacuumed; and lots and lots more. I did get my kitchen really cleaned this morning. Everywhere I look there are things I need to do. I guess I need to just pick something and do it.

I also need to figure out a study plan for getting my butt in gear for my classes coming up in the fall. I will be taking the second med-surg class in August and then the high-risk peds/OB class the second half of the fall semester. In January I'll take Psych and then the last class which is nursing management. All these classes are hard. I have the books and reading lists and study guides and notes for all the up coming classes. Now I just need to figure out a game plan to get all that info into my head.

Sorry for such a complaining/whining post. Just had to get it off my chest.

Feeling Great

I am feeling so much better now that I have kicked Celexa to the curb. I had someone tell me last week that I was laughing like I used to to. I AM laughing more. I also feel my emotions again and cry at sad movies or situations. I cried and cried at the end of a movie last night. It felt great. I am thinking about sex again. For the 3 years I have been on Celexa I haven't had any sexual thoughts or feelings. I had been going through the motions with my husband. He always had to initiate sex. Now, I am thinking about it and wanting to more and more. This is the best part of getting off Celexa.